As most experienced sugar babies will know, when first starting off an arrangement, determining how to spend your new windfall allowance is difficult. To assist newbies and other babies in the bowl, check out my strategy below!
Beginning Allowance (when first entering the bowl/a new arrangement):
Save up three months worth of rent (keep in savings for rainy day, continue paying rent out of pocket from vanilla job)
Purchase general necessities (stock up on things like shampoo, toothpaste, other toiletries, etc. also for rainy day; stock up on non-perishable food also or grocery store gift cards)
Pay off all credit card debt (minor debt)
Begin chipping away at Student Loan Debt (major debt)
Percent of what goes where:
50% - student loans (or other large debt you may be carrying.
30% - high yield savings account (I use Capital One 360 because I like the ability to make sub accounts)
10% - personal spending fun (if you’re in a lot of debt you might be tempted to put all your money in savings or paying things off, but be realistic here. You will always want to have a little bit of fun spending money! If you don’t include it in your budget, you will throw your whole budget off)
5% - sugaring necessities (makeup, hair, nails, tanning, lingerie - don’t forget to invest in yourself! This is important!)
5% - house cash (random necessities - food, toiletries, cleaning supplies, bed sheets, etc.)
What does this look like in monthly allowances?
…And so on. You get the idea. It doesn’t matter what kind of allowance you have. It’s still money you didn’t have before! Remember to think of your sugar money as a windfall and put it to good use!
Outside of your looks, your energy as a woman is your most important asset.
If you can uplift the mood in a room just by stepping into it; if you can place people in a trance, so to speak, just by talking to them, you’re golden babe.
It takes a lot of (inner) work to reach this level and routine maintenance to keep yourself at this level; but once you’re here, everything opens up to you. Everything flows for you. It all gets to be easy. You find that you get what you want because you’ve become magnetic.
Girl… go to bed like the successful heaux that you are. That you don’t have a fuck boy, but a wealthy sponsor who deposits money in your account every week, buys you designer because he wants to, flys you first class, if he has work, he sends you out to do your favorite things then takes you out to exclusive dinners and constantly compliments everything everyone else over looked. You live peacefully, you have it made..
You are “it” and things come to you. You are a magnet to what you want. You attract it by saying/affirming that you are it. You are luxurious and that’s why luxury always surrounds you. You are genuine that’s why you have genuine people around you or have genuine, wholesome experiences. You are love/loving that’s why that energy is always coming back to you in different ways. You are abundance/abundant and that’s why you always have everything you want and need.
Embody what you want more of. Put out that signal by affirming you want it or want to experience it or by affirming that you have it.
Do your I AM affirmations. Comment on things like you have it. Bump up the self-love. Stop walking and talking and thinking like you lack.
If what’s in your mind is not in your reality then change your mindset. Change your approach. Change your actions. Change your daily dialogue. Change your routine. More gratitude, less complaining. Create your life. Take the steps needed to achieve what you want to achieve.
I AM THE BEST. I AM PERFECTION. I AM HEALTHY. I AM RICH. HONEY I SMELL LIKE WEALTH. I AM A BLESSING. I AM BLESSED. I AM SO LOVED AND ALWAYS SUPPORTED etc etc etc✨
